The Inside: Post #3: "If I Just Had a Good Boyfriend For Once I'd be Happy."

I'm not pretty or good enough because no guys ever stay with me.... I know a lot of girls that have fallen into this lie. In my view, the worst thing you could do to your self image is base it off of relationships with guys.  Guys will come and go. Simple as that. And if you put all your self image and happiness in the hands of one guy, you're bound to get crushed.

Girls have a tendency to put their EVERYTHING into a relationship. And I mean everything. When she's talking to or dating a guy, he's all she thinks about. A lot of the time he's the person she bases all of their choices or opinions off of. She spends her every waking moment worrying about when he'll text her next or how long it's been since they last talked. I've known girls that get CRAZY obsessive over what some guys do. You know what I'm talking about. They creep all over that guys facebook wall 24/7... checking what girl he's been talking to and such. Before you know it her grades kind of sink, and all of the sudden her friends aren't as important anymore. Their life all around that one guy. Sometimes it's not as creepy or to that extreme, but my point is girls world easily revolve around another boys. 

Next thing you know, they've ended the relationship and her life is going all down hill from there.  All these thoughts consume her mind like she's not pretty enough... girly enough... tough enough... you name it. They start to doubt themselves. And sometimes, they even try to change who they are to get him back. And when that plan fails, it's off to find another guy so she can get over the other one and feel happy again. NOT.HEALTHY.

You need to find your happiness within yourself [Self confidence, for example.] before you can go out and find it in another person. There's really not any way to leave yourself, so why put your happiness in the hands of someone that can get up and walk out anytime?

*Don't ever think that dating a guy will make your self confidence shoot through the roof. NEWS FLASH: usually never happens. 

*Don't ever say to yourself, "If I just had ONE boyfriend." or "If I just had ONE DECENT boyfriend, I would be happy." 

Now I'm not saying it's bad to have a guy make you happy at all! Of course it's good to have a guy make you happy! Everyone deserves to be happy with someone. This is just a warning to all of you. Make sure you aren't putting your EVERYTHING into a guy because if he leaves, you'll have nothing

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