The Inside: Post #2 "Formspring-- Let The Hate Begin."

What makes a person in school popular? I've heard this question many times before and I've asked multiple for their opinion on it.


Examples of What I Heard...

• Hot.
• Nice Body.
• Nice Clothes.
• Lots of friends.
• Hot.
• Nice body.
• Hot.
• Funny.

Today, I was planning on doing a post on physical beauty.  But just yesterday something happened that made me want to change my plan right away.

I'm sure you're all familiar with formspring-- that website where people can anonymously post comments about you or ask you questions.... A lot of the time it's usually just hate comments from people. Yesterday, I logged on to check if I had any new messages in my inbox, only to find this...

"you're ******* ugly. no wonder no one likes you. you think you're so cool but really you're a freak. get a life."


First thoughts? Um... ouch. At first I didn't even want to respond.  I just wanted to delete it.  Then something made me want to reply and say something thought would hopefully keep them from saying something like that to me-- and anyone else ever again. ...But I wanted to say it in the nicest way I possibly could. With a lot of editing done... this was what I ended up with...


"public display of hate? well, don't you seem like a nice person... congrats. you just made me feel bad about myself. are you trying to tell me i need to be more like you? that you're the one everyone likes? the cool one? well you're right. YOU'RE the cool one. EVERYONE cool has these judgmental opinions about people they don't even know. but quite frankly, because that's what cool is, i don't want any part of it. no one likes me because i'm ugly? well, isn't that nice of them. im sure they have fun in their group of hot friends. no one likes me because i think i'm cool? no thank you. you're getting the wrong idea. i'm just happy. i have no desire to be "hot" OR "cool" because the reason i was put on this earth was NOT to be like everyone else. i'm gonna continue to be myself. my own ugly, freak self. but i'll be praying for you. because im a freak, that's what freaks do best, and THAT'S what i was put on this earth to do. if you need me, im here. you might stuggle looking past my freak self and ugliness though."


I could've went off on them. Could've dropped the f bomb a couple of times. People told me I had every right to bite back harder.  But I didn't. I just spoke the complete truth.
Remember this-- trying to be cool and fit in [popular] will just leave yourself feeling empty inside.  You won't feel like you really accomplished anything by satisfying what you feel everyone ELSE wants you to be. Especially since most of the time in high school, the person everyone else wants you to be isn't always the healthiest... nicest person on the planet. And newsflash- you can't satisfy everyone. Just look at how I took my rejection and hate-- I flipped it around into something better. 


What I said fit my last blog post-- how being cool or popular a lot of the time meant you had to be mean or judgmental. But love beats hate. Every.single.time. Just think about my response.... To my surprise, after I responded I got a HUGE amount of comments from friends backing me up and encouraging me. The coolest part was I didn't even tell them about it or ask them to post anything. I don't need to be cool to have friends. I don't need to be hot to have friends. I'm just me. And I'm satisfied with being me. ...and I'm hoping at the same time 'myself' isn't a half bad person.